Roadmap – Fixing an Unbalanced Life
Nathan Perkins • October 2, 2020
Feeling out of control is a normal response when you’re encountering multiple problems simultaneously. When you feel like life doesn’t give you a break, it’s almost natural to let everything dwell on your unwillingness to fix yourself. However, it can also be a motivator for you to move towards putting your life back together.
How to get control of your unbalanced life
When you’re down and not willing to move forward, it’s easy to succumb to the feeling of inadequacy. If you let these dark thoughts remain in your mental space for a long time, you will become more difficult to move past it. You need to know that it’s not the only response you can do, even if you feel like you’re out of options. Although it will be a long process, if you’re willing to take the first step, we’ll be there to guide your path to progress.
In this article, we’ll help you process your roadmap to getting control back into your life through these three steps:
Step#1: Having the will to want to change
Your willpower is the key to getting out of your current headspace. Having the mindset to move forward will give you a goal to look forward to. It will help you clear your head of your emotional irrationalities and focus on the objectives you must do. Remember that no amount of external help will give you the first push of wanting to turn your life upside down. This is why wanting to change is the crucial first step that you must make for yourself.
Step#2: Enumerating your dilemmas
Once you’re ready to accept the task ahead of you, it’s now time to enumerate your many responsibilities. Listing these dilemmas one by one will help you concretize these dark thoughts and face them head-on. After making this list, you now need to process each task depending on how they affect you and the urgency of completing them.
Step#3: Accepting things that are and aren’t under your control
Separating your list’s tasks is how you will judge for yourself whether some responsibilities are manageable or if others are out of your control. By recognizing, which is which, it allows you the strength to put your efforts on the ones that you can affect.
In some cases, the things out of your control may be few but have an immense impact on your life. The passing of a loved one or going through a divorce are some examples of heavy emotional moments. You must remember that acceptance is the first step to healing.
Just as you need to accept your lack of control in your life, you must also recognize the situations beyond your control. Remember that you shouldn’t force yourself to feel a certain way, but you can teach yourself to act in ways that benefit your well-being. By accepting your emotions, you can make rational decisions on resolving your issues, whether it’s with yourself or the relationships you have.
The feeling of being powerless can lead you down a spiral of self-hate with the pressure of the world on your shoulders. Dwelling on negative thoughts is one way to prevent yourself from growing and accepting difficult situations. Thankfully, you can train your mental state to promote positive energy through self-reflection and discipline. The best way to maintain control in your life is to have a deeper understanding of what you feel so that you can seek the proactive responses that are good for your well-being.
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