The Power of Now: The Many Benefits of Couples Therapy
Nathan Perkins • June 9, 2020
The Many Benefits of Couples Therapy
Not all relationships are without conflict, and most experience their fair share of issues. If left alone, some problems can even contribute to the decline of the relationship itself.
Fortunately, though, couples therapy is a reliable option that can prove to be the solution for couples in need.
Not sure where to start? Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered.
Let’s take a look at everything you need to know.
You’ll Understand Your Own Feelings Better
One of the most frequent causes of issues in a relationship is being unaware of your own feelings. For example, you may have deep-rooted insecurity over your partner’s past, financial success, etc.
It can be difficult, though, to acknowledge these sentiments if you aren’t even aware that you have them.
Many couples are also confused about the actual reason why they want to stay together. Others aren’t sure if they want to stay together at all.
Although these feelings are latent, they can manifest themselves in different ways. Irritability is a common symptom of someone who hasn’t acknowledged their subconscious emotions.
Counseling provides an environment that allows couples to discuss the latent emotions they’ve been experiencing, even if they aren’t quite able to put them in the words. From here, your therapist will help guide you toward a destination that both of you agree upon.
Your Boost Your Level of Intimacy With Your Partner
Over time, it’s not uncommon for people in a relationship to neglect a certain level of intimacy with their partner. Unfortunately, this is often a situation that occurs without actively putting forth an effort to preserve it.
Obligations such as school, work, and familial needs often get in the way of having quality intimate time with your partner.
For many, the course of action isn’t clear once that spark has begun to fade. At times, it can seem hopeless when it comes to the thought of getting it back.
In reality, this loss of passion often stems from one or both parties putting less time and energy into the relationship than they used to. For instance, new relationships are often exciting due to each person trying their best to make the connection as strong as possible.
Therapy can help couples figure out both what they’ve been missing and how they need to improve. You’ll then be able to work toward rekindling the passion you felt right at the beginning.
Counseling Will Promote Awareness and Growth From Both Parties
People’s needs change over time. This is true for almost everyone, and it’s virtually always true when it comes to relationships.
As people grow older and their priorities begin to change, physical intimacy often become less important than emotional stability. As you might expect, if both parties in a relationship don’t have their needs and values align, it can lead to conflict.
While there’s nothing inherently wrong with a need someone has, it’s important to communicate what it is exactly.
Having a strong sense of self-awareness plays a large role in being able to communicate with your partner what you need from them. After all, they aren’t likely to be able to give you what you want if you don’t even know on your own.
You’ll also begin to understand the reason behind why you’ve been investing more or less into your relationship. For some, companionship is an absolute necessity and The thought of letting a partner go can often lead to a feeling of overwhelming hopelessness.
Other people may have been passionate about the relationship at first but over time have grown to stray from it in pursuit of freedom or independence.
Obtaining this sense of self-awareness can lead to growth, which will strengthen the relationship in the future. Ultimately, though, it will allow both people to make the decision that’s best for them.
You’ll Overcome Obstacles
Sometimes, there are issues that can’t be fixed with a conversation.
This is an unfortunate reality that comes with being in a committed relationship. Finances, children, and infidelity can all be difficult topics to come up with solutions for. But, problems of this magnitude aren’t always clear.
For instance, a partner who has been focusing on their career far more than they used to could lead to the other individual feeling emotionally neglected. Over time, this neglect could turn to resentment, which could result and them confiding in another person to fulfill their emotional needs.
Although this occurrence isn’t blatant infidelity, it can still cause a rift between two partners.
Fortunately, a professional can help you navigate the complications that are associated with these kinds of problems. Having a third-party present will also provide a way for partners to communicate effectively with each other.
So, counseling is an option worth considering if both of you are on the same page about maintaining a relationship. Otherwise, you run the risk of not being able to resolve the issues on your own.
Making Couples Therapy Work Can Seem Difficult
But it doesn’t have to be.
With the above information about taking advantage of couples therapy in mind, you’ll be well on your way toward making the decision that’s best for you and your partner.
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